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What makes a good escort....or a good client

19 May, 2024

The truth about escorting is that those of us who sell our time, do it for a variety of reasons, and many do it willingly and some do it reluctantly. Some do it because they've no other choice/s, not because they enjoy it or even because they've choosen it. Some do it to feed a habit, some do it for thrills, some do it as a lifestyle/way of dating. Some do it simply for temporary financial gain, some do it for all the forementioned.....I do believe that the only way to survive within this industry, to remain sane whilst doing it, is to do it for legimate reasons. Meaning, you see it as a means to an end, as a stepping stone, or you do it because you truly find enjoyment/satisfaction in all or some aspects of it. Doing it because you've no other choice, or to feed a habit, or for any reason that isn't healthy for your mental, or physical health, will only bring problems to you and those you see.And I say this based on what I've seen/experienced personally.  As much as I believe there are great, intelligent, and kind people, both escorting and purchasing the services of escorts, I know there are also those who are cruel, abusive and looking to take advantage of others. And the latter includes escorts and clients......

I see abuse between escorts often. It's like being in high school all over again. Body shaming, age shaming,  name calling, undercutting, copying print material, copying brands, styles, and another form of abuse is when escorts enjoy classifying one another. Meaning they put escorts on different levels of worthiness/value/successfulness and then act like mean girls towards those they feel are below them. They'll praise and only associate with those who are of a certain price level, who advertise with pro photos, who see certain types of clients and host from specific types of incalls. They'll demean, shun, and distance themselves from other escorts who don't operate the same, and encourage others to do the same. Or they'll just shun those escorts who aren't of their mindset. They assume every escort aspires to reach or achieve their preconceived idea of success and style of escorting......I've learned that many escorts who operate as such are most often those who despise escorting the most......Monetary gain, noteriety, especially within escorting, can bring out the worst in some people. Recently there was a quote from a Lyla escort who mentioned that she understood that girls blurred their faces in ads for privacy reasons, but because clients have told her differently, she now believes some girls are better off not showing their faces. She also went on to say that "good escorts" don't stay in motels, only hotels, lol. WRONG!! I glean from her quote, that her and her clients discuss who is attractive and who isn't, which is so childish and unporfessional, and that she believes that where an escort stays determines an escorts value....which is incorrect!! But typical to the behavior and chatter of a few misguided, uppity escorts who belong to the review board, Lyla. Clients too, can be abusive in various ways. They'll demean specific escorts who don't bow to or worship those they review positively (their favored escorts), or towards those who haven't serviced them to their liking, or who don't meet their physical standards. Clients and escorts alike have used the review system/review boards as a tool to abuse and manipulate others in the biz.  In it's inception, I do believe it was a system started with good intentions, to keep both parties safe and informed. But it's since been so perverted and misused it no longer serves a worthwhile purpose other than being a tool for those escorts and clients with ill intents, and self serving motives.

The facts remain, good escorts exist at all price levels, are escorting for a variety of reasons and host from all levels of accommodations. A good escort is a good, trustworthy person, someone of good character. It's as simple as that. What they own, where they advertise, what they wear, should never be what determines their character, nor worth as a human, or escort. A good escort provides their patrons with safety, good service and has no ill intents or manipulative motives towards their patrons or peers. They simply want to exchange a discussed service for a decided reward. Good escorts exist in all legal age brackets, advertise on all different styles/levels of platforms and dress in all different styles and manners of clothing and lingerie. There are also great clients of all legal ages, affordability levels and with varied looks. Clients aren't "bad" because they seek intimacy when they are already coupled, nor are escorts "bad" because they sell their time/sexual services for only monetary gain. People are complex beings, with complex issues, and not all have bad intentions. We have to learn to hear beyond what is being said through gossip, and see beyond what people show us visibly. I always encourage clients to talk to the escort they want to meet and escorts to speak to their clients and to be honest about what you each want/expect. You have to learn to hear sincerity and learn to see what the signs of abuse and missuse are. It should matter that you seek out someone who is a decent human being, and not someone wishing to harm themselves, or anyone else. You also should learn to make your own decisions when choosing who to see. Only we can determine who will be suitable for our own needs......