This blog was inspired by a recent exhange I had with a person on twitter(X)....I was reading a thread started by another escort who stated that "a client doesn't need to tip her."....I responded to one of the respondents "that since we are in a service industry, getting tipped should be as common for us as it is with any other service provider", ie: massage therapists, nail techs, estheticians, beauticians, waiters/waitresses, consierge, etc, etc....Of course I received a couple of ridiculous replies. One being "that we shouldn't expect tips, because we are our own bosses, and set our own rates", and an idiot asked "if the service was ordinary is it free", that stupid question didn't deserve a reply. Another person asked, "since clients pay upfront, do I expect the tip before or after the service is given"....... My response, even though I suspect the question wasn't posed in sincerity,( I appologized to that person as he contacted me to assure me that he was sincere in his question), and I realize that I'm in the Maritimes, where review board mentality is rife, " the expectations of clients I have are for him to be on time, respectful, clean and to be discreet, and that a tip as I see it, is to show appreciation for the service ****received****". Therefore it'd be safe to say, that a tip would be given after the service was given, since received is past tense....although some nice men do include it upon payment,lol.
I also believe that the escort who made the statement "you don't need to tip me", is typical to many, when it comes to responding to clients.I believe many escorts will always speak politely and only with opinions that favor clients.They won't speak with honest emotion or opinions, on open forums, about their expectations of clients, as it could harm their earning potential. I on the other hand, don't care, lol....Long gone are the days to which I will cow tow to anyone for financial gain. Long gone are the days of me worrying that some guy will speak negatively of me on some review board, if I speak openly and honestly about this business or of my experiences. No longer will I put up with any abuse, bullying, or prepetuated beliefs about how an escort should behave. When a client hires an escort, they pay for that escorts time. What that escort provides, how they provide, and how many times, is entirely up to that escort. The client didn't purchase rights to her body he paid for a segment of her time!The fact that some guys still think they can influence any of that because of their board membership, is telling to how they view the escorting industry and those they engage with. Be aware of them!!
It's them and their ilk who'll prattle on about how escorts earn to much, don't pay taxes, and that we shouldn't expect a tip, because their money is hard earned, and we don't deserve more of it because we make enough......These are usually the same guys who'll also expect to get off as many "rounds" (their language, not mine) as possible per visit. Who'll expect their shower time to be off the clock, and who have no concept of the meaning of discretion and they gossip on those boards, more than church ladies gossip to one another! Their misogyny is evident to everyone but themselves....These are the very types of clients I hope will never again cross my doorstep.
The fact remains, we provide a service, a very special, intimate service, and one that requires multiple skills, patience, and courage, as it can be very dangerous at times.....So yes, I definitely believe we derserve to be tipped and that when the subject of tipping serviders is broached, our service shoould be included in that discussion,. Whether or not you decide to tip, is entirely your decision. But be aware, that when partaking in the service industry,and escorting is part of the service industry, tipping is commonly expected.....it's a polite way of you expressing your thanks for the service given,
No surprise that this blog and my opinion would ruffle the feathers of a few cheapskates, lol. As this twitter post below indicates...This type of response is typical behavior of those misogynistic review board
bullies. It's also a sign of immaturity and pItake some time and work on his lacking communcati
oIn skills.His anger has clearly clouded his reading ability...No where in any of my posts was I "demanding" that we be tipped. Ibroached this topic and was trying to make a point that as a sex worker, we provide a service, and although different to many other services, it's still a service. Therefore tipping us should be as common as tipping any other service provider. And as one gentleman stated, "tipping is a polite way of showing someone you appreciated the service given"....
My comment to his post above was "thanks for telling us how you really feel about sex workers. I hope you find some happiness".To which he responded below, lol...His disdain for sex workers in general is evident in his responses. Which is scary, because he follows alot of sex workers, and seeks out their services.....