I heard the news of a Canadian escort passing away, and I'm heart broken by it. Not because I knew They( Non-binary), but because, if any of the gossip is true, it is a tragedy. A tadgedy because someone so vital and young is gone before their time. They is known, and I knew of they from my days on the review board, cerb. There They was popular, and posted frequently. But as some know, what we display on the outside isn't always as we are feeling on the inside. Not every struggle fought is known, and sadly not every battle we fight, is won. I had heard of the rape, and as someone who's experienced that violence, I wanted to reach out, but I didn't know what to say, or how to say it. And since I wasn't someone close to they, my reaching out somehow felt inappropriate.  Sometimes words don't help anyhow. Sometimes those types of experiences scar us beyond repair, and sometimes the cruelness of this industry (escorting) can also.

 What is even more tragic, is this will happen again, to someone else, the causation will continue. Because as much as some will mourn, few will take a stand and speak out about the perils  we regularly face within this industry, and how to stop and or improve them. This industries vilest will continue causing strife, and they, like all those who died before they, will be forgotten, not by those who loved and cared for they/them, but by the industry in general. It all just breaks my heart....

We need to have a better community. We need to stand up for one another always, regardless, if you like them or not. If they're a professional escort, and run their business professionally, and if they're a client who treats all they see wilth respect and consideration, then they deserve support. This foolishness of only supporting those who you think of as being at your level, or not competition, or who are in your clique, etc, is childish and needs to stop. Clients and escorts both, need to call out those looking to harm any of us, and that harm could be anything from gossipy or scathing posts, or as violent as rape, and everything in between. What you see as being injurious to a person, maybe survivable for them, and what may appear as survivable to you, may not be for another. We are all affected by different things, in different ways. Open your hearts instead of your mouths. Talking shit about someone on a review board isn't cute, or brave, it's childish and cowardice. Attacking someone when they are most vulnerable is cowardice. We should want to protect one another from any forms of violence that occurs within this industry. Anyone who enjoys harming anyone needs to suffer criminal convictions and those injured should have the whole of the industry helping them heal.

Rip, dear soul, and may peace find you on your new journey.......