In 2011 when I joine the review board, then called cerb, now Lyla, I did so using downloaded pictures. It was my first time posting anything online. I had my first computer, and knew if I wanted to remain relevant in the biz I had to go online. I was terrified of my family seeing me, especially my dad....So I had someone search out the intenet for a few pics that I felt were representative of me, yet not me, to use. Well...... you would have thought I had commited the ultimate and most egregious of sins......Many members on that site asked to have me removed, many deemed me "not worth seeing".....flash forward to the past couple of years, and using downloaded pics is now tolerated, even accepted on that site.......and some of those same members remain, and have yet to retaliate against anyone doing exactly as I had done.....
Back then Cerb/Lyla separated itself from all the other review boards by calling itself a recommendation board, and disallowing anyone from posting a negative review. Which is good on the surface. But many clients would sneak in sneaky comments in threads about particular escorts, like "My mom said if I haven't anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". Well, after reading that comment you knew he was telling others, that the escort being spoken about, wasn't worth seeing and that the comment was a disgusied negative review. Which shouldn't have been allowed, as the site prefaced itself as allowing ONLY positive comments.But yet it was allowed. Fast forward, Lyla now calls itself a review board. Although it claims it doesn't allow reviews, just recommendations, lol....Figure that one out.
When I started there I learned many of the acronyms used in this industry,(Gfe, Pse, FS, BBBJ, BB, DFK, etc, etc) and decided to advertise as a GFE (girlfriend experience). As that is what I felt I offered, and, on that site, under it rules and other information, they described Gfe, Pse, FS, as styles of service, not a menu of services offered. Yet, because I didn't kiss, nor offer BBBJ, I was literally bullied into having to use a different acronym.Many told me I couldn't consider myself a Gfe provider if I didn't offer certain services. And at that time, it was expected and encouraged to suck bare dick. Something I had been previously taught was not allowed.....When I made comments eluding to it being more risky, I'd be lectured, and shamed for even mentioning it. Fast forward to the now, lol, you'll get raised eyebrows for offering kissing and bbbj's, lol.....Many escorts will even say they won't clients of those who offer bbbj, or Gfe types of services...Clearly, what is acceptable by many has changed, what hasn't is the judgement and the bullshit fakery of those who judge claiming that they are accepting of all and all about community.
Back then some of it's more prolific posters and popular escorts would proudly lament how they wouldn't interact or even acknowlegde "craiglist girls", in other words, if you weren't deemed as having elite status, and well liked by that sites main members, you would have a hard time winning clients........Fast forward to now. Not much has changed, lol. If you hang with the "well liked" you'll be "well liked". What has changed though, is...and because of social media, and the reach it has, is members attitudes..... if you belittle any other types of escorts,by insinuating they aren't as good as you, someone will step up and set you straight. So now those upity ones have had to change their tunes,... somewhat. They're still phony, still upity, just not as obvious about being so.Publicly they'll pretend to be accepting of all, yet offline, you'll see a different act.
It is funny to see how things swing from one extreme to another and how hypocrital some people are and have been and just how silly it all is.....
Certainly back then, that site had some really nice people on it, and has today, as well. Yet they never seem to be the prolific posters, nor do they have enough clout to bring positive changes, obviously. Because even though things have changed, they haven't improved, nor has having review boards improved anything within our industry. It's a shame, because our industry is fraught with problems.You'd think more would want to work towards fixing/improving those instead of making things more complicated, dangerous and troublesome for many of us within this industry.